Support and Resources for

LGBTQ+ Parents, Prospective Parents &

Family Building Professionals

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Creating Kin 

Mission: Increasing access to inclusive support and resources for LGBTQ+ parents, prospective parents and family building providers to promote better outcomes for LGBTQ+ families.


We do this by offering support groups during this major life transformation to reduce health disparities, feelings of isolation and allow a space to connect with local resources.


We are dedicated to creating a network of family building providers, committed to offering evidence-based information, financially accessible services and culturally competent, affirming support for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer parents and prospective parents.


We organize provider trainings and host networking/community events to foster accountability and connection.


Vision: A world where all LGBTQ+ families are seen, heard and supported.


We imagine a community which recognizes, protects, and values every person wishing to become a parent, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity/expression, race, origin, socioeconomic status, capacity or intersection of multiple marginalized identities.


We see a future where every parenting path; assisted reproduction, surrogacy, adoption, foster care or any other means is met with supportive providers to ensure families experience better outcomes in areas of mental, emotional and physical health, thereby creating a positive impact on the next generation and society as a whole. 

A recent Family Equality Council (FEC), LGBTQ Family Building Survey, found that the number LGBTQ millennials considering/actively trying to grow their families has increased by 44% yet inclusive support is still challenging to find. Creating Kin increases this access in multiple ways. As members of FEC’s National Network of LGBTQ+ Family Groups, we partnered with The San Diego LGBT Community Center to offer two monthly Support Groups for LGBTQ parents/prospective parents.


Support Groups


1st Monday Group: is a processing group peer led but guided by licensed marriage and family therapists who specialize in LGBTQ+ family building. The path to parenthood isn't always straight. Sometimes plans change, or we experience grief and loss along the way. This group focuses on the deeper challenges that may arise and is a brave space to express and share in a supportive and inclusive environment. 

FREE | 530pm- 6:30pm

Drop in group (RSVP encouraged)

Peer Led 

Co-Facilitated by:

Kristen Carvajal-Witek, LMFT

Ashley Saverino, Doula + Educator

and other psychologists, clinicians from our community!


4th Monday Group: focuses on education, information, resources and community building. We invite inclusive providers in as guest speakers to share information and answer questions.

We also discuss topics that apply to all paths to parenthood and all parts of the parenting journey and encourage attending groups whether topics relate to your specific path or not ​to foster learning, and peer support. 

FREE | 5:30-630pm

Drop in group (RSVP encouraged)

Co-Facilitated by:

Ashley Saverino, Doula + Educator

Kristen Carvajal-Witek, LMFT

Co-Facilitated by:

Ashley is an educator, doula and holistic health practitioner who has been working in the fertility, pregnancy, birth, postpartum and parenting world for over 8 years. 

Kristen is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is also very passionate about supporting people on their path to parenthood.


Their personal journeys have been different, but one thing was very similar, their need for more support and resources from the very beginning and each step of their process. Searching the internet far too often felt overwhelming.


We know we have so much to learn from all of you and we hope to connect you with amazing resources and inclusive providers to support your journeys and hopefully make some lasting friendships along the way.


5 Tips for LGBTQ+ Family Building


There are many important decisions to be made when growing your family, especially when you are LGBTQ+. We give so much hope and intention to this process and potentially face frustration and loss along the way. Hopefully, we are navigating this with family, friends, and affirming providers by our side, but oftentimes, there are major gaps in access to support and resources for LGBTQ+ prospective parents.


Family Equality did a recent study that showed 3.8 million LGBTQ+ millennials are considering expanding their families in the coming years, and 2.9 million are actively planning to do so. This information is so important when LGBTQ+ families need more access to high quality, competent care. Whether you are hoping to conceive, adopt, become a foster parent, or start a surrogacy journey, there are a lot of steps to consider and it can feel overwhelming!  

Here are just *some of the questions that might come up for LGBTQ+ prospective parents:

  • Pregnancy? If partnered, who can/wants to carry?

  • Whose uterus, eggs, sperm will you be using? Do you need a donor?

  • Sperm donor: Anonymous or known donor: frozen or fresh sperm?

  • DIY insemination: IVI/ICI with Mosie or another home kit?

  • Home IUI (with a midwife) or in-clinic IUI: medicated or unmedicated cycle?

  • IVF: Traditional or Mini? Reciprocal?

  • Donor eggs? Donor embryos?

  • Trans and intersex fertility preservation

  • Surrogacy: altruistic, gestational, traditional? Matched through an agency or with a known surrogate?

  • Trans pregnancy/birth considerations

  • Adoption through the county or private agency? Open or closed?

  • Foster parenting? Foster-to-adopt? Adoption?

  • Legal protections, parentage/second parent adoption

  • Single parenting, poly-relationship parenting, co-parenting considerations

  • And so many more…

Many trans and gender diverse individuals end up educating their health care providers, fertility specialists, obstetricians etc., while navigating family building services, tailored for cis-gendered people. Even when providers say they are “LGBTQ inclusive” they do not always include the fertility/pregnancy/birthing considerations for all bodies and all genders. Intersex, trans, non-binary, agender, genderfluid and genderqueer people need access to affirming, competent gynecological, reproductive, and perinatal care.


Queer and Trans BIPOC need access to providers, especially Black providers, centering their intersectional work to dismantle systemic racism and bias in birth and beyond. This is even more important now with the recent ruling of removing health care nondiscrimination protections for LGBTQ+ folx when Black and transgender people suffer the most by these inequities. Local queer, Black midwife, Nikki Helms, Your Community Midwife is getting ready to open a Birth Center in San Diego that focuses on reproductive and birth equity. This center offers so many options for BIPOC, immigrant families, and LGBTQ+ birthing people. Learn more about how you can support and donate:

Growing your family is an imaginative and extremely personal journey. The decisions you make along the way can be difficult. Some of the questions and answers we consider then reevaluate, overthink, research for hours, days, weeks, months on end!

Exhausted yet? We are just getting started.

Making personal and important decisions does not stop in the family building stage. It continues throughout parenting as well. Aside from our own analyzing, we are often fielding questions, even from well-meaning friends or family members who casually ask, “but have you thought about this?!”  

Here are some common questions LGBTQ+ folx get asked regarding their family building process:

•      Which one will be the biological mother?

•      Why don’t you just adopt?

•      How can you get pregnant when you’re on testosterone?

•      Where did you get the sperm? How much do you know about the “dad”?

•      Are you worried the surrogate mother will want to keep the baby?

•      How does co-parenting work, won’t you be jealous?

•      Will the “dad” be in your child's life?

•      What are you having?

•      Isn't your child confused about what to call you?

•      Doesn't your child miss out on doing "mom" things?

•      What did you write under “Father" on your child's birth certificate?

•      Where is your child from?

•      Are you worried your child will get teased?

Personally speaking, how I’ve responded to some of the questions above might look different depending on who I’m speaking with and feelings range from, “not my job to educate” to “happy to share” and everything in-between. When I hear someone creatively respond to the famous "what are you having?" question pregnant people get asked all the time with something like, "a gemini" it brings a smile to my face. There is no right or wrong answer, only what YOU feel comfortable with sharing in any given moment. This may be one of the reasons many folx decide to keep their journey private.

Like many prospective parents, we are also facing challenges of preparing and making space to build or grow our families. This could look like, moving to a new home or across the country to be closer to chosen family or near more LGBTQ+ inclusive neighborhoods. Lifestyle changes such as, budgeting/saving money, change in hormones, medications, body changes, career shifts etc. There may be many doctor’s appointments, meetings with agencies, and/or home visits involved. We are typically scheduling with lawyers, therapists, and other family building providers.

Now add in a global pandemic. Many LGBTQ+ family building plans were put on hold over the last few months. Now that clinics, courthouses, and agencies are opening back up in most cities, many people are still wondering, “is this a good time?” The world feels upside down right now and this pandemic affects families, parents, prospective/intended parents, and pregnant/birthing people in so many ways.

The questions of “is this a good time?” and “are we ready?” personally came up A LOT (even before this pandemic) when my partner and I were starting our family building process. I felt this unnerving pressure to have to prove that we were “ready” to be parents. I think this came from years of trying to fit into social construct BS. “See, look at us and our marriage equality. We’re good enough to be parents, right?” People have fought and worked so hard for us to have the rights and freedoms we have today. It has never been about “fitting in” and we have a long way to go. I have so much love and respect for this queer generation, beautifully living and liberating out loud.

If you are thinking about building/growing your family or you are actively trying to do so, I hope this list offers some support for you along your way.

Here are 5 tips for Folx Navigating The Family Building Process:


Surround Yourself with Support


This might not be the same “go to” support you leaned on during that big break up 8 years ago. Don’t be surprised if the person who shows up for you the most during this time is someone you didn’t expect. You may want to consider things like, “is this person great at listening and not giving advice?” Sometimes it IS nice to hear what worked for other parents, and sometimes it’s not. It’s okay if you need to create some distance. Also, these are important, revolutionary, and unparalleled times. If filtering through your social media and unfollowing people improves your mental health, do so. Take breaks to recharge. For me, as a white, cis-gendered, “straight-passing” person, I can not look away or "log off." I feel a deep responsibility as a human being and as a parent to stay focused- listening, unlearning, and having the hard conversations. I can find community spaces where I feel supported and free to express my feelings. Creating Kin, in partnership with the Families Program at The San Diego LGBT Community Center has an online Processing Group, peer led for LGBTQ+ parents and prospective parents, 1st Monday of every month. We are there to listen and hold space for you during this time. 

Find Inclusive Care-Providers

What does that exactly mean? It is easier to talk about what it doesn’t mean. It doesn’t mean lots of smiling “same-sex couples” on brochures and websites. It’s more than that. Of course, representation and visibility matters and it’s important for ALL of the diversity within our communities to be represented. An inclusive family building provider is commitment to equitable practices and the ongoing work of learning/unlearning and recognizing where changes can be made. People’s lives depend on it. Creating Kin is working on a local provider directory and you can also check out Family Equality’s national directory to locate providers and see what training they have completed. This does not guarantee your positive experience, but it’s a good place to start and there are a lot of queer and trans providers on that list. Trystan Reese, founder of Collaborate Consulting, is an educator and activist. He now offers an online trans birth training in partnership with Cornerstone Doula Trainings. This class is designed for midwives, doulas, lactation consultants, and family building providers of all kinds. If you don’t know if a provider is LGBTQ+ inclusive, ask. Once you research and locate providers in your area, we encourage folx to think of the initial phone call as an interview before ever coming in or make a consultation appointment. When you do go in, bring a partner or friend with you or have them on Facetime to ask questions as well. Creating Kin offers a free Resource Group on the 4th Monday of every month. We invite local family building providers, committed to inclusivity, to join us and share information and answer questions for LGBTQ+ parents and prospective parents. We also host provider networking events to create a supportive, learning space for accountability and community building. This allows us to share more trusted resources and connect folx to providers who are truly committed to doing the work.

Break Down Big Goals into Small Goals

Tiny to-do lists are much easier to tackle and feel less overwhelming. Especially during these times, it is not uncommon to feel stuck. The end goal or vision of your family feeling complete or the process of how to get there can seem daunting and endless. Asking, “What is something I can accomplish today or this week?” might feel more manageable. That might mean doing more research on a specific topic or attending an online information seminar. Reproductive Sciences Medical Center is offering a free online LGBTQ+ family building seminar this month on July 22nd. You can sign up and find more information here:

Certain personal factors might mean less to consider and perhaps, an easier road, but some journeys take longer than others. We recently co-hosted a Sperm Donor Panel For LGBTQ+ prospective parents with Family Equality and California Cryobank. I was amazed by the number of attendees looking for information years before actively trying. Educating yourself about options ahead of time can make the decision-making process easier. It also allows you time to prepare for potential challenges. What kind of Paid Family Leave does your current employment offer? What is the cost difference between a hospital birth and home birth? How long does it take to become a foster parent? Questions that might be worth looking into without feeling like you need to have it all figured out right at that moment.

Find Time for Self-Care

Self-care and wellness are words we hear a lot these days. The self-care we tend to think about, like spa weekend trips, is not only a luxury and privilege that isn’t afforded to everyone, but it often doesn’t even give our soul what it’s actually asking for. "Self-care" can be whatever you want or need it to be in the moment. It can be simple. It doesn’t have to fall under any guidelines or cost any money. It doesn’t have to involve foot soaks or face masks (the avocado pampering kind, not the new everyday life, Covid kind). It can be digging your feet in the sand, calling a friend you haven’t talked to in a while or telling your partner “I love you and I need you to figure out dinner, I’m going for a run.” Finding ways to take healing time and space for yourself is more about honoring yourself for doing the thing and less about the thing you do or the length of time you do it for.

Allow Yourself to Feel it ALL


LGBTQ+ Family Building has many uncertainties. Sometimes we are afraid to feel hopeful, excitement and joy in the moment. Journeys could include grief and loss, difficulty conceiving, pregnancy or infant loss, arrangements falling through, feeling the loss of the plan or vision you wished for ending if plans change or if you move to another path completely. This can bring up painful feelings from past experiences or break us down and make us feel isolated, especially if we have kept our journey private and those around us at work or family/friends don’t know what’s going on. It’s important to have outlets and access to mental health support. Remember to come back to the reasons you want to create a family in the first place. If you can, be gentle with yourself. Allowing moments to dream and visualize, and moments to pause, retreat or distract yourself with a Netflix binge. Stay connected to the people in your life who can quietly sit with you when you’re in the thick of it. Lean on community and know that you are not alone.

Ashley Saverino (she/her/hers), HHP, CPMT is a doula and educator. She is the founder of Creating Kin, a local community organization focusing on increasing access to resources and support for LGBTQ+ parents, prospective parents, and family building providers. You can learn more about Creating Kin support groups, community events, and ongoing training opportunities by following along on Instagram: @creating_kin

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We offer fertility doula support and wellness sessions for those trying to conceive and anyone (partners, co-parents and intended parents included) moving through the ins and outs of the trying to conceive process. Learn more about fertility doulas, massage, reiki sessions, fertility wellness classes, and support groups!

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Our Childbirth Education Classes help you prepare for birth and parenthood! We offer a complete Cornerstone approach to birth education that is inclusive of all birthing people and all parenting paths.  

Learn more about our most popular treatment, birth prep massage session  and more about our unique birth support such, as day of birth, labor massage and birth doula support.  

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We recognize that there are many

paths to parenthood! We provide inclusive, affirming care for prospective parents on assisted reproduction paths, surrogacy journeys or those planning for foster care or adoption. We hope to be a space to recharge and retreat to during this process, while also, finding resources and support along the way.

Learn more about Creating Kin!

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We offer postpartum doula support and postpartum prep classes for families settling in to the first 6 weeks with a new baby(ies).

We also offer treatments after birth (or for anyone navigating early parenthood) as a way to encourage you to nourish your whole self as you care for your little one(s). Learn more about infant massage classes and all the support options and resources we offer. 

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Our highly experienced certified perinatal massage therapists specialize in the full spectrum of perinatal wellness.  

Our hatch package allows you to schedule your perinatal massage sessions based around your estimated "due" date and individual needs at a discounted rate so that you can come in more often throughout this transitional time. 

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We know the postpartum period (or early months/first year with a new babe) can be quite the transition. Hopefully, it's filled with a lot of support but it's often after the new normal has settled in, we find we still need that support and community. We offer ongoing wellness sessions for parents, as well as, support groups and community events to encourage us all to find our support systems. 

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"If you celebrate your differentness, the world will, too. It believes exactly what you tell it-through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated."

-Victoria Moran

We offer a diverse list of support for every stage; preparing for parenthood, becoming parents for the first time or doing it all over again.

We hope you find a space here to pause + recenter so you can go back out, experience wonder and spread your joy. 

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8080 La Mesa Blvd

Suite 113

La Mesa, Ca 91942


SD Family Wellness is located on the corner of Acacia St.

& La Mesa Blvd.


Parking lot

behind our building (off Acacia St.) for you to park in any space without a #.


Once you walk into courtyard, you'll see us on first floor. 

Please contact each individual practitioner to make an appointment or set up a free consultation: 

Our Team


For general info, please fill out this form or call: 

Office Tel: 619- 770 - 8692

Nothing on this site should be taken or seen as medical advice. Please consult you doctor if you have any medical related concerns.